Our local Hero's; Mum and Daughter duo, have at last got their wish, after nearly 4 years of trying. Their 'Housing Island' on the Longfield estate has finally been provided with the access needed for this young lady to drive her wheelchair safely to Tesco, Town Shops and give her safer access to College. This is a big help towards this young lady's independence. The Longfield Road and Brown Street block of houses is the latest part of the Estate to get 'Drop Kerbs' installed. This had previously been delayed, because the old 'District Council' had run out of money. Drop kerbs, as these two campaigners have been arguing for years, are essential for the safe street access of people with physical and sensory impairments and are also beneficial to mothers with babies in push chairs. All she needs now is the transport necessary to get her to College in the morning, during the winter periods, when she tends to get to college very cold and wet. She says that she will be fine getting home, because she can easily warm up and get dry at home. Getting to College wet and cold is more of a problem and interferes with her studies. Come on Wiltshire, give her and Mum a break . Mum has a lot of other family responsibilities and work demands on her time, she has also had her health problems and is proudly independent and wants to keep up working. She could take her Daughter, at a push, but her Daughter also want to be independent of Mum, as much as she can. Like all independently minded young people of her age, she does not want to remain too dependent on her. There is always an assumption that parents should take the entire practical responsibility for their children's lives, especially if they are assessed as having a disability. Well, that is not true for most teenagers and young adults, why should it be for those who registered as having a disability? Part of maturing as an adult is the gradual acceptance of personal responsibility and greater independence of action. Parents want to keep their role as parents, helping their kids out when things sometimes go wrong. Community Care is about providing the support and resources which compensate for the impairments that the person has. Parents should never be the cheap option. This was never meant to be the case. Parenting is a special role, it includes 'caring', but should never become entirely caring for life. That is nearly always detrimental to both. So, come on Wiltshire, do your thing; Either provide the enabling and services needed to ensure her social inclusion, or provide her with the funding and facilities, so that she can organise these things for herself. This is Community Care; Between the Council and its resources and the Voluntary and Charitable agencies in the community (adequately provided for by Wiltshire Council) and reliable arrangement should be possible. From these potential options, it is then this young lady's entitlement to choose what best suits her. That is what becoming independent is all about. None of us are totally independent. We all rely on family, friends, employers, bosses, colleagues, shop assistants and all those other people and resources available to us, according to our needs and desires. Community care is about maintaining this equality of opportunity and spreading the load. It is great for people who have a disablement to see the results of their efforts and the help provided by local media and committed professionals. This should not have to be such a challenging task. For many people, things are often difficult enough, without the additional burden of fighting for what is plainly needed. Helping people to help themselves saves money, time and professional effort. The earlier that enabling support is provided the more independent the person becomes and the earlier they are able to do the the valuable things they have ambitions to do. Get the support in earlier and more effectively then there would be more people with disablements who would want to take an active part in their community. This young lady wants to help kids. You have only just started her along that path - well done Wiltshire. There is another, slightly older young woman who has, in spite of her severe physical disablements, chosen to train and work as a part time Citizen's Advice Worker and a Magistrate. She has brought with her many professionals skills and disability and cultural skills and insights which will be invaluable in both these roles. This will benefit the effective working with many groups in the community. She is also a active mum and partner. The Future is Bright and it is Green (for go): I know all your wishes will be with these determined people to live their lives as fully as they can. The contribution that we each make, when provided without resentment and prejudice, comes back to us all, in more ways than we can imagine. Enablement and Inclusion and the current buzz words. These concepts have been around for over 30 years and we are still waiting for proper implementation of these fundamental entitlements. Enablement is the flip side of Disablement (something that our attitudes and environments contributes towards not than any physical impairment). Inclusion is the flip side of Exclusion, something that people have suffered for generations to all our detriment. We have happily paid for people to be shut away, rather than invest in the person's potential to take a full part in our communities, social lives and employment. Believe me; we can not afford to exclude people any longer. We have to invest earlier in peoples lives, not wait (as we are often doing) until the problem is substantial and critical. There are so many people who are determined to overcome their impairments, even very severe ones. Unfortunately, there are also many who have lost hope, or were never provided the inspiration to push themselves forward to achieve in their lives. The current costs of providing 'dependent care' is fast becoming prohibitive. This is the consequence of the failure of 'enabling' initiative over the last 30 years. It does not benefit those with impairments and it does not benefit the rest of us, who are living longer and increasingly surviving quite disabling conditions. It is in all our best interests to ensure that everyone gets a fair 'enabling' deal early on. Find out how you can play your part locally. Check out the links on the right and see what is provided by Wilshire Council and the other Community Services. Check out your own and other peoples entitlements. Participate in the proactive development of services and take on 'enabling' voluntary roles. Find out how we can each take a more positive attitude to 'Supporting People' so that they are more able to help themselves and us in turn. Shake off your prejudices concerning age, disability, culture and politics. You could be in need of support at any point from tomorrow onwards. No investment, insurance, or contract can ever compensate for a loss of some personal facility; be it physical, mental, emotional, or social. Your personal determination will take you a long way but, as they say; 'No person is an island'. We are all dependent in the end, some sooner than others. Plan your future now and be sure you are part of other people's future. If you are lucky, you will need them sooner or later, and those who have already been there will be the best able to advise you how to survive what life will eventually throw at you. Anyway, positive attitudes are good for you health and wellbeing. The most important investments we make are in people, the most important insurances come from people - Mostly those less selfish than ourselves, you better believe it. It is about doing with people rather than doing for. |